2020 has finally ended but we’re greeted with a new year without much knowledge of what to expect. At the same time, 2020 has also offered us countless challenges to overcome, some of which were extremely overbearing to our mental capabilities. A friend might have turned towards you for some guidance where you immediately responded with a whole paragraph telling them why they’re the greatest person on earth, and that they’ll do amazing in whatever it is that’s troubling them. If you’re capable of giving reasonable advice to others, why should you struggle to apply the same for yourself?
This is my gentle reminder for you: to be kind and to appreciate yourself. To understand that life has its swings of ups and downs that will pave the path we’re fated to take.
You’re only human. You don’t need to hold everything at once.
You only have two arms to hold two things at once. It’s okay if you cannot hold more than that, and it’s okay to put them down too. That said, you don’t have to hold everything for everyone all the time. You have feelings. You get bruised. You might bleed whenever you lose. But that’s part of being human because things don’t always work out. Beating yourself up isn’t going to make it any better. You’re not a superhero. You cannot do everything on your own. And when the world gets too overwhelming, you must ask for help because you can. You can because you are human.
You carry so much love in your heart. Don’t forget to give some to yourself.
My best friend is sad? Here is a 43 slide PowerPoint presentation and a 30-minute long video on why I love you. Now I’m sad? Time to get ready for a smack cam feature. It’s hard to love ourselves because society is always paying attention to our flaws and shortcomings. But your impact on other people is much bigger than you think. Someone still laughs at that joke you said the other day. Someone still smiles at the compliment you gave them. The support and love you’ve offered others have made their day. Your existence makes a positive difference whether you see it or not. If you’re capable of holding such power, offer some for yourself. You know yourself best. Revel in the pleasures that make you the happiest.
You are doing the best you can right now and that is enough.
It’s easy to be consumed by the fact that others have it all together, and that you are struggling to make it through. It’s easy to feel frustrated when we think we aren’t doing as much as others are and that we’re falling short. What you have done today, no matter what that might have been, is more than enough. You will try and try and not every day will be great, but each day will be unique because it provides you with the opportunity to choose yourself, to forgive yourself, and to grow in the strength you never knew you had. Be patient with yourself, better days are coming.
That’s all I can offer to you right now. Maybe I was able to tug at your heartstrings. Maybe I made you roll your eyes at how cheesy my words were. Whichever one it was, you needed to hear it from someone. Now, you must hear it from yourself. You got this.
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